Ladies, this book might just be the best purchase you ever make if comparison and jealousy are often a battle! As a kid and then teenager, I often struggled with wanting to look as thin and pretty as my friends but I didn’t know how. Most of my friends had boyfriends before I did, and I felt so left out. It’s easy to think, “Why her?” in circumstances like that. However, this book will bring freedom to you.
Nicki Koziarz writes from the heart, sharing her own struggles and offering grace and truth for us. She’s been through it. She still goes through it. And it’s her experience with this struggle that creates an inviting environment to grow. Hearing from someone who “gets it” is refreshing. Because then you know with certainty that you aren’t crazy.
I wasn’t able to relate with everything in the book, but out of the six truths Nicki shared truth four hit me super hard. There were little things throughout the whole book that spoke to me and helped me. That’s why I’m so convinced it will help you if comparison is a thorn in your side.
There are many stories in the Bible where things weren’t fair. Nicki chose to use Leah and Rachel and wow! That story stirs up so much emotion in me. Anger toward Laban. Deep hurt for Leah. Disappointment in both ladies for their actions toward one another. Nothing about this story could be considered fair or just. Yet, it is what it is. They couldn’t change their circumstances much like we can’t change ours.
You don’t have to covet someone else’s circumstances to still struggle with comparison. Sometimes there will be a fleeting thought in my head, like “must be nice she can do that” but it doesn’t stay. I actually felt like I have a good grip on comparison. That is, until I read this book. Ladies, this book stepped on my toes in all the right places. It addressed minor things I’ve struggled with, as well as reminded me of some hard truths that I need in this season of life.
Wherever you are in your journey, know that this story is unique to YOU. No one else can do life like you can. No one is able to do what YOU can, exactly how YOU do it. You’re irreplaceable. Don’t let comparison steal that from you. You should love who you are, respect who you used to be, and appreciate the God-given story you possess.
So instead of asking, “Why her?” Ask God, “What can I do today to bring You glory? How may I honor You with my actions and words?” Let Him work through you, dear lady. Go change the world!