Little did I know that my engagement would spark some hateful remarks.
One day, a lady saw my ring, and told me how gorgeous it was. I thanked her for the compliment, but my smile was quickly wiped off my face when she decided to throw in her two cents.
She began to tell me how her husband of so many years ran off with another woman, and now she had to worry about child support, and the lives of her children. She told me that my fiancé would probably just end up doing the same thing because “all men are the same.” She was hateful, spiteful, and discouraging. She told me that since I am young, my marriage would end in divorce.
I had no idea how to respond, but instead of getting defensive and angry, I just smiled (more like smirked), and politely told her that we had Jesus at the center of our relationship, and that we would be just fine.
She didn’t respond after that, and went on her way.
At first I was fuming, but honestly, I felt sorry for her. She was bitter and broken. I knew she wasn’t the only woman who slumped around, living this way. I realized that in the midst of all of my happiness, I was surrounded by a broken world. A world full of bitterness and divorce.
With lust of the eyes and greed of the heart, it can be difficult to maintain a pure marriage. With morals crumbling, and divorce becoming the norm, it can become burdensome to be a wife of virtue.
So how can you be a virtuous wife in a broken world?
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:10-12).
Keep God at the center of your marriage
Just like every home needs a strong foundation, every marriage needs to be built on a godly foundation. You must be equally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), meaning that you need to believe the same things in order to thrive in your marriage.
Keeping God at the center will make-or-break your marriage. It’s the key to a successful marriage. Without God, a marriage will crumble. It will either fall on the wife, fall on the husband, or fall all together. There’s no 50-50, it’s all or nothing. You need to have a Christ-centered marriage.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything (Ephesians 5:22-24).
Pray for your spouse
Pray for him physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Your husband carries the weight the world on his shoulders. He worries about finances, his job, and protecting his family, while maintaining a relationship with Christ. Pray for your marriage relationship, so that you will be prepared when adversity strikes.
Lord, I thank you for blessing me with such an amazing husband. I pray that you strengthen and encourage him. I pray that he will not be overwhelmed at work, or with our finances. I pray that he will be an overcomer, and know that You are in control of his life. I pray that he will seek Your face, and be encouraged today. Touch his mind, his body, and his spirit. In Jesus name I pray, amen.
Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others (Philippians 2:4).
Make time for intimacy
It’s so important to make time for intimacy. Whether it’s kissing, physical touch, or laying in each other’s arms, it’s a way to connect with your spouse. It reduces stress and rekindles the romance in your marriage.
Life happens, but at the end of the day, you have to have alone time with each other.
I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me (Song of Solomon 7:10).
Fight for your marriage
If we do not fight, then Satan will steal, kill, and destroy our marriages. He wants to see divorce, chaos, fighting, unforgiveness, nagging, disrespect, adultery, and broken families. Don’t let him win! Fight for your marriage!
Don’t give up after a petty argument, have open communication, forgive quickly, be patient, and love each other deeply. Actively seek God with all your heart, and consistently work on your marriage. No marriage is perfect, but if you work hard, you can have a successful, Christ-centered marriage that is full of love and happiness.
Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Mark 10:9).
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).