It’s everywhere. Social Media, magazines, TV, blog posts, the chatty neighbor down the street. We are inundated by headlines, captions, blog posts, and Instagram pictures that say Slim and Happy, The Secret to Flat Abs, The Must-Have Habits of a Happy Mom, How to Raise the Perfect Child, or This Season’s Style Essentials.
It really is everywhere. And it’s overwhelming.
With a messy bun in place, the shirt that didn’t get removed from the dryer quick enough to not be wrinkled is pulled on. The pants that have seemed to get a little tighter around the waist are somehow buttoned. We wearily stare into the mirror and it leaves us wondering. How in the world will I ever measure up? Forget the fairy tale. This is real life and if the mirror could talk there is no way it would say I was the fairest of them all.
Ever been there? Me, too.
It leaves us wondering if we will always feel this way or if anything will ever change. In those moments, whether in front of the mirror or behind the screen of a device, we begin to doubt our value and our worth. We let society’s (or our family, friends, or co-workers) standards become the measuring stick for determining whether or not we’ve hit the mark.
We live in a society where messages of all sorts are flooding us nearly 24-7. Between our phones, tablets, TVs, and computers, we are constantly connected, and the messages are seemingly endless. We look at ourselves in the mirror, begging for it to say what we want to hear, only to have it drowned out by the onslaught of other voices.
Sometimes, it feels pointless.
But, take hope. It’s not.
These moments beg some questions. Who or what determines your purpose and value? Whose measuring stick are you using? Whose opinions are you giving loyalty to?
I know my answers to these questions aren’t always what they need to be. Sometimes I determine my purpose by what I feel I can or cannot do. My value is measured by whether or not I’ve gained or lost weight, if my clothes are in style, if my house looks like the magazine, if my laundry is done and my kitchen is cleaned, if my marriage currently feels like happily ever after, or if my kids are acting respectful.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (NIV).
In the original language, the word translated as charm means favor. Finding favor from others as a means of measuring up is deceptive. Unless that favor is saturated in the truth of God’s Word, it holds no substance or ability to determine worth.
Philippians 4:8,9b says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praise worthy—think about such things…And the God of peace will be with you” (NIV, emphasis mine).
We have to consider what is true. We need to look at ourselves, measure our value and purpose through the lens of truth, and find our worth in the only place worth finding it. While the onslaught of daily messages that we receive can, on the surface, appear to be true, we need to dig a little deeper and go back to the one Truth. Jesus said of himself in John 14:6, “I am the way and the truth and the life” (NIV).
Jesus is truth. We need to find our worth in Him because in Him is the only place worth finding it.
You are loved and a daughter of the King. “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1a, NIV)
You are a masterpiece. “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10, NLT)
You are wonderfully made. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” (Psalm 139:14-16, NIV)
You are protected. “You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.” (Psalm 139:5, NIV)
You are cherished. “See, I have engraved you on the palm of my hands; your walls are ever before me.” (Isaiah 49:16, NIV)
You are called by name and you are not alone. “…listen to the LORD who created you…Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you. I have called you by name; you are mine. When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.” (Isaiah 43:1-2, NLT)
Sweet sister, with these truths, stop and take a look in the mirror—a good long look. Say to the girl looking back at you…you are the fairest of them all.
Because, the truth is, because of Jesus you are.