Every marriage faces uphill battles and times of struggle. None of us are immune from those. What happens, though, when those times seem to become the norm rather than the exception? What about when a situation turns ugly and you don’t feel secure telling your girlfriends or small group about things that are going on?
I never expected to find myself in that situation. I had a strong marriage to a man who had been a Christian pretty much from birth, as I had. We had our ups and downs, but I never expected the bottom to nearly fall out in my marriage. The shock and hurt that I felt was overwhelming.
Everything that I knew to be real and true in my marriage was stripped away. All that remained was a bare and broken heart. It wasn’t long before the question became, “Are you going to stay?”
We spent a lot of time in various ministries at the church and our entire support system was there. There was support if I wanted to leave, but there didn’t seem to be much hope if I wanted to stay. I felt utterly confused by the lack of support as we walked this dark road.
Around the same time this happened, I joined a small online group of Christian bloggers. Through this group, I connected with Jen, who blogs at Being Confident of This. We discovered some similarities in our marriages. Both of us experienced dark times and uphill battles, and felt unsure of how to proceed. We searched for hope and struggled to understand God’s plan.
God used that friendship with Jen to provide hope in times of extreme doubt and fear. How reassuring when you’re going through deep waters and someone else can say, “I understand.”
As we continued writing and sharing together, Jen and I found that we had a lot of the same types of people seeking out support – hurting wives looking for hope.
God laid it on our hearts to take some of the struggles we’ve faced and compile them as hope for others.
Hope for the Hurting Wife
Hope for the Hurting Wife is a book with 30 days of practical encouragement for your marriage. Whether your struggles are frustrations with your spouse, or full-blown issues that seem to lead to divorce, we understand.
Jen and I have dealt with the constant frustrations – those small things that overwhelm when they pile up. However, we’ve also walked the long, lonely road of extreme problems in our marriages. We understand the fear, anxiety and even the shame associated with the deep hurts of marriage.
Some of the topics we cover in the book include:
•Moving forward after trauma
•Loving even when you feel unloved
•Protecting your heart
•Understanding the power of choice
•Trusting God while waiting for redemption
We share prayer prompts, tips to control your emotions, ways to love when you don’t feel loved.
You can read this book at your own pace, or take it a chapter a day. We’ve worked to keep each chapter short while sharing practical encouragement to let you know that you are not alone!
We believe that God has a very special plan for you and for your marriage. We do not promise that this will fix your marriage – only God can do that. It’s our deep desire for you to know that we understand your feelings and that you are so loved! No matter what happens in your marriage, God has a purpose for your life and He will continue to guide you through these tough times.
Please know that we are praying for you, trusting that God will provide you the hope you need. God has worked in wonderful ways in Jen’s marriage and in mine, and we pray the same for you.
God gave Rebekah a front row seat to the work of His redemption in her marriage. After surviving the initial trauma, she determined to fix her eyes solely on Jesus and trusted Him to carry her through the storm that followed. Rebekah shares not only her heartache, but also her great hope with other wives so they might know God still redeems, even in the toughest of circumstances. Now, years later, she praises God for restoring her marriage.
Rebekah co-leads an online community for struggling wives around the world and shares encouragement for those who face the daunting task of surviving the “for worse” of marriage. You can learn more about her ministry to wives at her blog, Sharing Redemption’s Stories.
Grown missionary kid, mother of four, and wife to a church planter, Jen Stults is a work-in-progress woman who seeks to find confidence in Christ alone. As a disciple-maker, author, and speaker, she encourages women who feel frustrated by failure and plagued by perfectionism. Her heart’s desire is for women everywhere to experience the abundant life God has planned for them by finding freedom in their identity in Christ. She writes about the struggle to embrace everyday grace in the areas of faith, marriage, and parenting at her blog, Being Confident of This.
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