I have only recently discovered the greatness of podcasts. People have told me countless times that I should be checking them out, but you know, life happens and I forget. Much time has passed since these little audio gems have become main stream, but once again, I’m late to the party. And not fashionably late either. So anyway, the other day I was listening to my new favorite podcast, which was on prayer. And while it was meant to be directed at myself, I began thinking of how I should be (or could be) praying for my husband. And beyond that, I want to learn how to pray effective prayers for my husband.
Why pray for your husband?
It probably goes without saying, but if you’re new to marriage, new to the Christian life, or you’ve just been distracted from prayer, it’s time to get on your knees with your husband’s well being in focus. Ladies, this world is vying for your man’s attention. And let me tell you, it uses sick and twisted ideas and methods to work its way into his conscious thoughts. I don’t know about you, but this idea terrifies me some days.
But the great relief here is that God has equipped us with the most powerful battle tool in the universe – prayer. And most of us are underutilizing it in regard to our men. Let’s change that right now!
How do you pray effectively for your husband?
When we mention prayer, usually the first thing that comes to mind is something along the lines of, “God, keep him safe” or “God, keep him from temptation” or “God, keep him healthy and happy.” Don’t you think we can get a little more specific and intentional with our intercessions for these mighty men of God?
As I listened to this podcast on prayer, the speaker challenged me to pray through scripture. And I began to think about how powerful, strengthening, and uplifting it would be to pray scripture over my husband. I have often struggled with knowing how to pray positive and purposeful prayers for my man’s mind and for his day to day life. Let’s look at a few of the Psalms to see how they might be incredible prayer tools to load into our prayer arsenal.
“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, ‘My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust!’ For it is He who delivers you from the snare of the trapper and from the deadly pestilence. He will cover you with His pinions, and under His wings you may seek refuge; His faithfulness is a shield and bulwark.”
Psalm 91:1-4 (NASB)
Don’t be thrown off by words such as “pinions” and “bulwark.” These are words of God’s protection and tools of battle. They are the style of fortitude that you receive under God’s care, and they are exactly what the type of protection that you (and I) desperately want covering our husbands. Are you with me?
Sometimes, praying through scripture means speaking words that we would not normally use in our modern-day English. And that’s completely ok! Look up words that don’t make sense to you. Know what you are saying to God. Know what you are asking of Him. There are great tools online to help you with this, in case you don’t have a mini library of Bible study tools on your bookshelf (or if you have them all packed away in boxes like I do… ah, the joys of moving…). Biblestudytools.com is loaded with quick-reference aids, such as commentaries and dictionaries.
“I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and let your heart take courage; yes, wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:13-14 (NASB)
Allow God to guide you through His word as you pray for the man who He has given to lead your family. Allow the power, purpose, and intention of Truth to surround your husband as he steps foot out the door in the morning, and as he comes home to you each night.
What happens when you pray for your husband?
You know those days when you feel frustrated with what you see, or don’t see, happening in your husband’s life? The days when your first instinct is to either give him a piece of your mind, or give him the silent treatment, just to make sure he knows how you feel about the situation? Imagine if in those moments, you instinctively turned to prayer. Imagine what would happen in your own mind and heart if you let God work out His purpose and plans in that moment (and all the moments to follow).
There may not be immediate action or forward progress, but there will be a peace in your heart. I guarantee it. When we come before the Throne of Grace, and pray God’s own words back to Him, there is no greater relief for your mind. There is nothing sweeter to your soul.
So, how about it? Will you start praying for your husband today, expecting God to do great things in your heart AND in his heart? Will you take some time to look at the book of Psalms, seeking a chapter or a set of verses, which you could pray through right now?
Be encouraged today, dear friend. God has a beautiful plan for your husband, and for your family. Allow Him to do it in His way, in His time, as you sit at His feet.