Dear Stay At Home Mom,
I know you. In fact, rewind several years and I watched you. I was one of your charges eyeing you in secret. I’ve seen you struggle and, Stay At Home Mom, I’ve also seen you thrive. Despite your efforts to shelter me from your battles, I’ve walked them alongside you. It doesn’t deter from your strength. Those moments actually make you stronger. And Stay At Home Mom, there’s something I have to tell you. Amidst everything you put up with, I want you to know that you are important.
Yes, Stay At Home Mom, you are more important than I think you can comprehend. You see the state of the house and feel the stress of the budget, but there is so much more. Whether you realize it or not, your current sacrifices result in your greatest accomplishments.
I cannot tell you how much I owe to the solemn word of my good mother. (Charles Spurgeon)
Every day that you sacrifice your own self, you are building your legacy. Your children might not seem appreciative, but one day they will recognize all that you did for them. Regardless of how many times you respond poorly or feel overwhelmed, you are bettering your children. One day, you will see this. Your little ones will grow into responsible adults and the fruits of your labor will be seen in their decisions. But for now, you must endure the challenging years with the kids. I hope you know just how vital these years are.
I know that you often feel invisible and I have no doubt that you sometimes wonder what life could be like if you had chosen differently. Stay At Home Mom, it’s okay to wonder, but it’s not okay to dwell. Dwelling on the “what if’s” will only make this season more difficult. Unlike any other time in your life, these precious hours balancing kids and house will change you forever. Someday, you will look back on these days and smile. Your children will be thriving members of society thanks to your willingness to daily put them first.
The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. (C.S. Lewis)
Although you often feel otherwise, I want to remind you that your life today has purpose. Whether you realize it or not, right now you are holding the ultimate career. Though you may feel unimportant in the grand scheme of life, what you are doing is so valuable. Your day to day offerings and sacrifices are shaping your children into the men and women they will one day become. Without a doubt, your “work” at home with your children will have greater impact long-term than most careers.
This important time at home is not only setting your children up for when they are adults, but also their children and their children’s children. It is hardly possible to fathom just how important you are today, but someday we will be able to look back and see just how powerful your role as mom is.
I know that sometimes you wonder if your children truly will turn out alright. Dear Stay At Home Mom, I am proof that it’s going to be okay. Regardless of how many times you mess up, your little blessings will grow and thrive. Regardless of how many times you scream or act rashly, your children will forgive you. Take each moment as an opportunity to grow and teach. This is your opportunity to grow right alongside them.
Don’t worry about getting it all right, either. You won’t, but that shouldn’t keep you from doing your best for you little ones. Work with what you have and make a point to learn as you go along. You might not believe it now, but you’ll one day see the fruits of your labor. And when your children do thrive as adults, you can celebrate that you survived this harried season. I know you will. How do I know this? Because my mother survived the challenges of raising little ones and yours did, too.
Wonderful Stay At Home Mom, you truly are wonderful. Even with all your quirks that will inevitably drive your teenagers crazy, you are still so important. Right now, you are enduring a difficult wave and I know that you become discouraged. The future seems to be a long way off, but know that it is coming. Before you realize it, those precious little ones will be grown and off on their own. You don’t have to love this season, but do your best to enjoy your children while you have them near you.
Someday, your children will thank you for what you did for them. They will someday understand just how much you gave. Stay At Home Mom, what you are doing today is so important. Please don’t give up. Please, keep going.