You may remember that in June we featured each love language here on our site. To make all the articles easier to find and refer to, we decided to link up the articles here for your benefit! I’ve included a blurb from each article for you to peruse as well. I hope these posts bless you!
“My husband’s love language is gifts. And, ironically, I call myself one of the worst gift-givers. My poor hubby.
It probably goes without saying then that our marriage faced a strain. It wasn’t easy for a few months. I tried to draw out of my husband what gifts had the greatest impact. Do you know what I discovered? Gifts, to him, had everything to do with the thought behind it. Had I been thinking of him? Was it something he had voiced a need for?”
“I remember having a conversation with my Grandpa a while back about marriage. As a retired minister, he’s led dozens of couples through premarital counseling. So, I was quite interested in hearing his thoughts on what can make or break a relationship in those first years of marriage. What he said surprised me. It wasn’t “pick your battles” or “do couples’ devotions,” though I’m sure he would advocate both of those if asked directly. Instead, he pointed me to something more obscure: love languages.
At first glance, love languages can seem like a simple personality test. But unlike any other test I’ve taken – and believe me, I’ve done my fair share – finding out how my husband exhibits love was a game changer for understanding him and strengthening my marriage. I discovered my primary love languages are not necessarily his. Which means that how I naturally show love doesn’t always translate the same to him and vice versa! I had to become intentional about communicating love in a way that connects with his types. In this case, quality time.”
Acts of Service
“As you might have noticed, this month we’re talking about love languages. It seems like this topic can be very challenging for a lot of couples out there. Either they don’t know their love language or they don’t know their spouse’s. In some cases, there is no open communication about the topic. But something that isn’t talked about (or very little) is that your love language can change. This actually happened to me in the months since our son was born. Acts of service suddenly became a top love language of mine. So today, I hope to offer you an avenue to discuss this with your husband.”
“It’s really easy to identify when my physical touch husband* is annoyed, upset, or hungry. While he’s usually down for being close, in those moments he’s pretty good at using distance to send a very clear message. Unlike any of the other love languages, this one can easily be used to manipulate the other person. I know this first hand – as my primary language is physical touch. Distance has an amazing way of controlling a situation. And when we know that our spouse favors this language, we have to be extra careful not to use it to our advantage!”
Words of Affirmation
“For those of us with words of affirmation as their love language, communication is terribly important. Maybe your love language isn’t words, but it’s your husband’s. Today, I thought I would shed some light on common struggles my husband and I have faced concerning this love language. Perhaps through my words you can find hope and inspiration to improve this area of your marriage.
As a woman, I’m guilty for withholding my words when I’m upset. Maybe men are the same way, but I cannot attest to that. I think I do this trying to keep love from my husband, hoping he’ll see I’m hurt. It doesn’t work, because my husband’s love language isn’t words but despite that staying silent never helps the situation. Often, once my dear husband has noticed, he gently reminds me that he isn’t a mind reader and that I need to tell him what I need.”