My husband said the sweetest thing to me the other day: “Honey, you are my source of confidence. I am able to do things that I wouldn’t otherwise be able to do because of you. I am so grateful for your support.” I was touched by that statement, then after I thought about it a moment, I thought to myself…”Isn’t that what he should be getting from Jesus, not me?” Do I really want the responsibility of being responsible for someone else’s confidence and strength? Am I equipped for that? Will I fail him?
So many questions brought to my mind over his simple declaration. This required some prayer and pondering on my part. What does God’s word say about marriage? Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Am I a “good thing?” I certainly try to be. And I cherish the thought of being a source of favor from the Lord for my sweet man. Proverbs 19:14 tells me “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” There it was, standing out on the page! I am “from the Lord”.
God gave me to my husband for many reasons. I am to love him and to honor him. I am to be that prudent wife who is watchful of things that might come up against him. I am on the look out for that prowling devil who would love nothing more than to devour my husband and our relationship. I am to shower my husband with respect. I am to love him more than I love any other human being, and put his needs far above my own. It is my duty and privilege to encourage him when he is discouraged, to build him up when he is crumbling, and to spur him on when he is overwhelmed. I am to be the joy amidst his sorrows and the light in his darkness. When he is weary, I need to be strong. When he is confused, I am to be his source of reason. I am the chosen helpmate for this man of God that has been given to me as a precious gift to be enjoyed and treasured for all the days of my life.
God didn’t bring this man into my life only to be the positive in my life. He intends for me to be the positive in his as well. Psalm 85:10 states that “Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other.” Our love is what has drawn us together. Our righteousness in Christ Jesus, and the peace we have from knowing Him are as beautiful as that first kiss…timeless and never forgotten. Our love of Jesus, and our desire to put Him first in our marriage is what carries us through, even on our darkest days.
Back to my original question…will I fail him? My answer, after much contemplation, is “No, I will not.” I will not fail my husband as long as I continue to make my relationship with Jesus my top priority. Through that relationship, my Lord will provide me with the strength, wisdom, and guidance I need to be a wife of noble character. Because of who I am as a wife, my husband can be respected at the city gates. Because I believe, he can have full confidence in me. Because of my confidence in Christ, I can confidently encourage and esteem this man that God has chosen for me. Through my walk with the Lord, I am righteous, and able to be a humble servant and a willing partner in our journey through this life. This is my beautifully important assignment from my Father in Heaven….to partner with this man who has been specifically chosen for me and who knows me so very well. I accept my assignment, and I accept it with sincere and ample gratitude.
1 Corinthians 11:11 sums it up so well… “Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;”. He needs me and I need him. I am his source of confidence and strength and he is mine. I am his shelter and he is mine. He is my protector and I am his. His strong arms are my comfort and my gentle touch soothes his soul. Together we are one, and that is just how God intended it to be. He is my greatest gift from the Lord, and my most special assignment.
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